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A pile of book recommendations, podcasts, papers, and other educational goodness.

At a basic level, roleplay and feeling powerful and/or desired is fun; psychoanalyzing myself, as an adult, I admit that growing up alienated by the absence of sexual and romantic attraction has made me intellectually ravenous to understand sex of all kinds.

...I didn't write the title, but it does serve as a good content warning, I suppose. I'm more interested in how the author relates to sex & kink as an asexual person more generally... but wow, I learned some new words in the process, too.

Arousal is a funny thing. It’s an involuntary response, one we have little to no control over, that also carries enormous social and psychological weight. Since the era of Freud, we’ve been told that the things that turn us on have deep significance when it comes to unraveling who, exactly, we are – which makes it that much more troubling when the things that turn us on run completely counter to who we want to be when we’re fully clothed and away from the bedroom.

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The more we try to deny our erotic urges, the more they take over our experience – while paradoxically, accepting those parts of ourselves as harmless, if occasionally upsetting, fantasy, allows them to fade into our unconscious and helps integrate them into our daily lives.

Out of print with limited stock available. Also see the official website

Unexpectedly philosophical on the nature of identity and personhood, and expressions of it in art. The 'mind of the [body part]' stuff is brilliant.

content warnings: this site is full of porn, comic features a single panel of [very pixelated and undetailed] sex

Recommendation from a friend.

Simultaneously some incredible art, some WTF off-the-rails storytelling (complimentary), and incredibly pornographic throughout. You will laugh, potentially cry, and probably keep your pants on.

Minimally spoilery content warnings: homophobia (including occasional slurs), fantasy religion, [briefly] body horror & [plot-relevant but skippable, definitely not what you're expecting when I say...] urethral penetration.

Site has a tag blocklist function you may want to make use of, and the author occasionally clarifies art/plot ambiguity in the comments.

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Queer communities have separated the specific gender performance of fatherhood from the actual act of raising children through the construction of the daddy figure. Andrew Schopp explains that:

The Daddy challenges dominant ideologies of masculinity by appropriating the icons of masculinity and male authority (jocks, leather, motorcycles, uniforms) and transporting them into the realm of gay male sexual experience. This appropriation effaces the boundary between ‘appropriate’ masculinity such as sports and war, and ‘inappropriate’ or ‘failed’ masculinity such as the gay male sexual experience.