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Some really interesting perspectives in this thread.

Asexual people have been near-universally the kinkiest suckers I have ever met. Focusing less on physical attraction to bodies and more on the subjects and actions surrounding the concept of sex would do that to you.

Where have I heard this before...

"The youths are hooning around in their cars, copying what they see in action movies and getting killed. This is bad."

"We could work on educating vulnerable demographics so that they understand what's being shown is extremely high-risk and not a good representation of reality... or we could ban action movies for everyone."

"I do quite like the sound of that last one, Minister."

In short, in the context of sex:

M:

• Not recommended for under 15s, no legal restrictions
• Sexual activity may be "discreetly implied, if justified by context"

MA:

• Considered unsuitable for under 15s, with legal restrictions
  • I definitely bought MA video games as a teen without issue (though sometimes I did need my dad there)
• Sexual activity may be implied
• Sexual violence may be implied, if justified by context

R:

• Considered unsuitable for under 18s, with legal restrictions
• Sexual activity may be simulated (i.e. the actors are not actually having sex)
• Sexual violence may be implied

X:

• Exclusively used for consensual sexual material (but nonsexual, high impact films can be R or RC)
• Illegal to possess in some parts of the NT (maybe? I think that law automatically sunset a few years ago and wasn't replaced?)
• Illegal to sell, rent, or exhibit in all states (but not the territories)
  • Thanks to the constitution, an ACT/NT store can knowingly sell to someone in other states and that's OK
• Sexual activity may be depicted, unless...
  • depictions of violence, sexual violence, sexualized violence, coercion, or sexually assaultive language is present
  • that includes consensual depictions which "purposefully demean anyone involved in that activity for the enjoyment of viewers"
  • body piercing, "application of substances such as candle wax", "golden showers", bondage, spanking, or fisting are depicted
    • Why is this list so specific?
  • the actors are 18+ but look like minors, or are being depicted as minors

RC: (Refused Classification)

• Anything that fails the above restrictions, but also:
  • "activity accompanied by fetishes or practices which are offensive or abhorrent"
  • "incest fantasies or other fantasies which are offensive or abhorrent"
    • Why pretend-incest is singled out here but not in the exclusions of X ratings is beyond me.
• Broadcasting or selling this, or anything that would be RC if they tried to get it classified, is illegal (for the person selling/broadcasting)
  • I am fairly sure consuming or possessing it is not inherently illegal, unless you're in a juristiction where X-rated content is illegal to possess

See also:
https://www.legislation.gov.au/F2005L01284/latest/text

Articles I did not expect to have a BSDM section: this one

Articles I probably could have inferred could have a BDSM section: also this one

A pile of book recommendations, podcasts, papers, and other educational goodness.

At a basic level, roleplay and feeling powerful and/or desired is fun; psychoanalyzing myself, as an adult, I admit that growing up alienated by the absence of sexual and romantic attraction has made me intellectually ravenous to understand sex of all kinds.

...I didn't write the title, but it does serve as a good content warning, I suppose. I'm more interested in how the author relates to sex & kink as an asexual person more generally... but wow, I learned some new words in the process, too.

Arousal is a funny thing. It’s an involuntary response, one we have little to no control over, that also carries enormous social and psychological weight. Since the era of Freud, we’ve been told that the things that turn us on have deep significance when it comes to unraveling who, exactly, we are – which makes it that much more troubling when the things that turn us on run completely counter to who we want to be when we’re fully clothed and away from the bedroom.

[...]

The more we try to deny our erotic urges, the more they take over our experience – while paradoxically, accepting those parts of ourselves as harmless, if occasionally upsetting, fantasy, allows them to fade into our unconscious and helps integrate them into our daily lives.

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Lots of solid advice interspersed between innuendos and sexual comedy from someone who really likes their boots. Ye be warned.

Queer communities have separated the specific gender performance of fatherhood from the actual act of raising children through the construction of the daddy figure. Andrew Schopp explains that:

The Daddy challenges dominant ideologies of masculinity by appropriating the icons of masculinity and male authority (jocks, leather, motorcycles, uniforms) and transporting them into the realm of gay male sexual experience. This appropriation effaces the boundary between ‘appropriate’ masculinity such as sports and war, and ‘inappropriate’ or ‘failed’ masculinity such as the gay male sexual experience.